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June is an artist, writer, speaker and advocate for self-empowerment. In 1999, illness overcame her life. During her unwavering search for physical wellness, she stumbled upon the subject of emotional wellness. This discovery led her down a path of self-empowerment for which she will always be grateful. It opened the doorway to her heart. As a result, she has spent a great deal of the past fourteen years focusing on personal growth and self-help. June’s mission is to share what she has learned with other people to support them on their wondrous and sometimes rocky journey. She conducts workshops, writes and paints to share her passion and wisdom with her fellow advocates for self-empowerment.

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

The Nasty Voice

Action for the week:
It takes on many forms... 
An inner dialog that can sink all your hopes and dreams in a mere moment.  

Our self-judgment that persuades us to doubt our goodness and our abilities to create the positive that we would prefer to experience within our lives.  

The negative thoughts that manage to creep in while we are sleeping soundly and wake us instilling fear.

(This list could go on forever, so I am stopping here.) 

You know the nasty voice...    

The nasty voice tells us who we need to be...more perfect, better at pretty much everything, and what we are not...good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, likeable enough, etc. 
Essentially, the nasty voice never tells us who we truly are and what we are capable of being and doing in any shape or form. Just one dig after another. An ultra-negative nag that will go out of his/her way to make us feel bad. Right?  
Remember this to help quiet him/her down...the nasty voice is not who you are and will never suggest what you can do to help yourself. It cannot because it is pure judgment and NOTHING else. It is not truth. It is not accurate. It is not really you. It is judgment that has run amok. It has likely been unchecked many times so it may run wild some, if not much of the time. 

This week you are going to tame that intrusive beast, the nasty voice. You are going to lessen its grip on your mind. If you have been working on it, tame it even further. 
Every time the beast makes a statement remember the following:

This is judgment and nothing else.
This is not truth.
This is not accurate. 
This is not me.

Then interject some humor and love to get the nasty voice out of your mind.
Keep reconditioning your mind. Eventually the nasty voice will become a whisper and perhaps even undetectable at times. Maybe someday it will be totally powerless over your mind.     

Thoughts for the week:  
I am much more than a body and mind.
I am pure love

Sweet Revenge

Action for the week:  

Most all of us have been betrayed, hurt, disrespected, taken advantage of and treated unfairly at one time or another. It is normal to get angry, sad, frustrated and/or upset when we are treated badly. It is a healthy response.

The desire for revenge can be an indicator that we have taken an unhealthy turn. We may feel on some level that it helps us to heal, however, focusing on revenge does just the opposite. It keeps us from healing.

Revenge is a desire for retaliation. It is a way to get back at someone who has hurt us. Revenge is a form of punishment. When we get hung up on taking revenge and see it as sweet, we are heading in the wrong direction. We are in fact punishing ourselves.

How do you feel physically and emotionally when you want to punish someone? Do you feel tension, stress, negativity and/or unrest? Do you feel anger, hostility and/or frustration?

Self-empowerment is about feeling good, peaceful and in control. It is a process by which you elevate yourself and make choices that help you. When we hold on to revenge, we hold on to all the negative feelings that come with it. We keep them with us and allow them to adversely affect us. Continuing to hold a grudge and harbor anger is not beneficial to our well-being.

Revenge does not solve problems. Revenge does not right a wrong. Revenge gives life to the problem and keeps you from solving it. Revenge is poison.
Sure, people have hurt us. Some have betrayed us and disrespected us. Some have done worse to us. Staying in the space of hurt and disrespect, feeling bad about what has happened, will keep you from healing.

Somehow you need to move past the event, situation, and/or the person's behavior that makes you feel bad. Sometimes it is matter of forgiving the past and letting it go. Sometimes it is about finding a solution and/or removing yourself from an unhealthy person or situation. Sometimes it is about not giving other people power over what you think and feel. And always, it is about favoring a loving perspective and empowering yourself.

When you feel revenge remember...

- You determine the direction of your life.

- You decide what you think and feel.

- You can think positive thoughts and feel better about life.

- You can solve the problem at hand.

- Your baggage is nothing more than useless weight, get rid of it--heal.

- Revenge is not sweet, it is poison.

You know all this, now put it into practice at all times so that your life can be sweet in the way that it is meant to be.

Thoughts for the week:   
I will no longer punish myself because of unwanted events or
the actions of others
. I will reward myself with peace and joy.
Joy Meter

The Blame Game

Action for the week:  

Empowered people don't blame. Empowered people take full responsibility
for all that they think, feel, say and do. It is that simple.

Empowered people decide what they think and constructively deal with their feelings and emotions. They take actions to improve their lives. They think positively and let go of fear. They do not allow other people and difficult situations to control their internal environment. They work from an internal place of power.

It isn't always easy, but they do it anyways. They do it because it enables them to experience peace, joy and love. They do it because it makes life so much better on many levels.

Our society reinforces blame. People love to blame. It is a destructive habit. I bet you cannot get through the day without hearing some type of blame hype from someone you know. If you tune into the news by radio or TV, in print or online, you will surly be a witness to the blame game and blame hype.

Blame hype
is a story that reinforces blame. When we personally blame, we are creating or believing a storyline in our mind that keeps us from peace. It can be a simple and short story, or long and complicated one. Regardless of the story's depth and length, know that...

Blame never solves a problem.

Blame doesn't make us better people. 

Blame doesn't keep us from making mistakes.

Blame diminishes the power we have within.

Blame is an excuse, a false truth that keeps us from love.

This week don't play the blame game. When your blame hype comes to mind, recognize it for what it is: a self-created storyline that needs to end once and for all. Take back your personal power. Look for solutions, understanding and wisdom. Look for the truth and work with the love you have within.

empowered soul
Thoughts for the week:
I am grateful that I am 100%
responsible for all that I think,
feel, say and do.