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June is an artist, writer, speaker and advocate for self-empowerment. In 1999, illness overcame her life. During her unwavering search for physical wellness, she stumbled upon the subject of emotional wellness. This discovery led her down a path of self-empowerment for which she will always be grateful. It opened the doorway to her heart. As a result, she has spent a great deal of the past fourteen years focusing on personal growth and self-help. June’s mission is to share what she has learned with other people to support them on their wondrous and sometimes rocky journey. She conducts workshops, writes and paints to share her passion and wisdom with her fellow advocates for self-empowerment.

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Sweet Revenge


Action for the week:  

Most all of us have been betrayed, hurt, disrespected, taken advantage of and treated unfairly at one time or another. It is normal to get angry, sad, frustrated and/or upset when we are treated badly. It is a healthy response.

The desire for revenge can be an indicator that we have taken an unhealthy turn. We may feel on some level that it helps us to heal, however, focusing on revenge does just the opposite. It keeps us from healing.

Revenge is a desire for retaliation. It is a way to get back at someone who has hurt us. Revenge is a form of punishment. When we get hung up on taking revenge and see it as sweet, we are heading in the wrong direction. We are in fact punishing ourselves.

How do you feel physically and emotionally when you want to punish someone? Do you feel tension, stress, negativity and/or unrest? Do you feel anger, hostility and/or frustration?

Self-empowerment is about feeling good, peaceful and in control. It is a process by which you elevate yourself and make choices that help you. When we hold on to revenge, we hold on to all the negative feelings that come with it. We keep them with us and allow them to adversely affect us. Continuing to hold a grudge and harbor anger is not beneficial to our well-being.

Revenge does not solve problems. Revenge does not right a wrong. Revenge gives life to the problem and keeps you from solving it. Revenge is poison.
 
Sure, people have hurt us. Some have betrayed us and disrespected us. Some have done worse to us. Staying in the space of hurt and disrespect, feeling bad about what has happened, will keep you from healing.

Somehow you need to move past the event, situation, and/or the person's behavior that makes you feel bad. Sometimes it is matter of forgiving the past and letting it go. Sometimes it is about finding a solution and/or removing yourself from an unhealthy person or situation. Sometimes it is about not giving other people power over what you think and feel. And always, it is about favoring a loving perspective and empowering yourself.

When you feel revenge remember...

- You determine the direction of your life.

- You decide what you think and feel.

- You can think positive thoughts and feel better about life.

- You can solve the problem at hand.

- Your baggage is nothing more than useless weight, get rid of it--heal.

- Revenge is not sweet, it is poison.

You know all this, now put it into practice at all times so that your life can be sweet in the way that it is meant to be.


Thoughts for the week:   
  
I will no longer punish myself because of unwanted events or
the actions of others
. I will reward myself with peace and joy.
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